Comments on: Turning The Other Cheek On Tough Love http://www.themicahmandate.org/2008/12/turning-the-other-cheek-on-tough-love/ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:46:53 +0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Daniel http://www.themicahmandate.org/2008/12/turning-the-other-cheek-on-tough-love/comment-page-1/#comment-172 Daniel Wed, 24 Dec 2008 03:10:38 +0000 http://www.themicahmandate.org/?p=868#comment-172 Mischa: I don't disagree with you at all. However, I need to query your last statement. How many types of compassion are tough? Mischa: I don’t disagree with you at all. However, I need to query your last statement. How many types of compassion are tough?

]]> By: mischa http://www.themicahmandate.org/2008/12/turning-the-other-cheek-on-tough-love/comment-page-1/#comment-170 mischa Mon, 22 Dec 2008 20:04:15 +0000 http://www.themicahmandate.org/?p=868#comment-170 I understand Padma's predicament. Perhaps she was never given the tools to feel confident in taking care of herself, holding down a job and being independent. While her body may have been that of an adult, it is quite possible that inside, she felt like a child, acted like one, looking for someone to take care of her. Would tough love have really have served the child in Padma who was so afraid of the world, living in it, engaging in it, being fulfilled in it? My guess is that she needed to know she was safe and loved, taken care of and she looked for it in the language of love she understood. We all speak a different language of love, one we are taught when we are young. What was Padma's language of love? What is yours? How do you know you are loved and safe in the world? What words and actions affirm love? Was she truly idle and indolent or was she in a lot of emotional pain, unable to be present to cope in her current circumstances? Compassion has many different faces. And not all of them are tough. I understand Padma’s predicament. Perhaps she was never given the tools to feel confident in taking care of herself, holding down a job and being independent. While her body may have been that of an adult, it is quite possible that inside, she felt like a child, acted like one, looking for someone to take care of her. Would tough love have really have served the child in Padma who was so afraid of the world, living in it, engaging in it, being fulfilled in it? My guess is that she needed to know she was safe and loved, taken care of and she looked for it in the language of love she understood.

We all speak a different language of love, one we are taught when we are young. What was Padma’s language of love? What is yours? How do you know you are loved and safe in the world? What words and actions affirm love? Was she truly idle and indolent or was she in a lot of emotional pain, unable to be present to cope in her current circumstances?

Compassion has many different faces. And not all of them are tough.

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