Thank You – That’s All It Takes

My wife, Kim, was pleased to see the modular kitchen unit installed in our flat when she came back from work so she rang Esther, the lady who had done the job, the thank her. What she hadn’t realised was that these two simple words had worked magic in Esther’s ears.

“In all my 18 years in this business, no customer had ever called to thank me after I have completed the job. Your wife is the first to do so,” she told me when I rang her the next day to apologise for forgetting to pay her. This was because her workmen had taken much longer that expected to finish the job and I had to rush back to work so I forgot to give her the cheque.

Esther had also not asked us for a deposit before starting the job which was unusual. And this was because Kim had made her a cup of tea when she came over to do the measurements.

“I appreciated that very much and I felt welcomed as if I am part of your family,” she said, “that’s why I didn’t ask for the deposit.”

We were quite sure Esther would not have taken the job as it was really a very small job and she could easily get big projects at this time of the year. We are really thankful that she made an effort to make a good job out of it.

A stranger becomes our new friend. A cup of tea and two simple words, that’s all it takes. Now that we have a proper kitchen, we will be inviting Esther over for Christmas dinner.

But life is not always like that. In reality, it’s easier for friends to become mortal enemies just because someone always needs to have the last word.

Of late, a certain lawmaker has been a fine example of this. Whenever he stands up to debate in Parliament, his speech is deliberately hurtful and it really stinks.

To say that he resorts to unparliamentary language is indeed an understatement. This particular MP has no qualms about spewing out racial slurs and gutter speech. He justifies this either on grounds of being provoked by other MPs or in defence of his race. I really feel sorry for the race that he is trying to represent.

Well, he’s not the only one. Other MPs have also reduced themselves to using crude, lewd and sexist language against female lawmakers in the midst their so-called parliamentary debate.

With such meaningless slanging match going on in the country’s legislative chambers, one wonders why the lawmakers bother to address one another as Yang Berhormat – Honorable.

“Indeed, we all make many mistakes. For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way. We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong.

“In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.

“People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison.” (James 3:2-8 New Living Translation Bible).

Only God Knows

When we human beings come to the limits of our finite minds and admit to our own deficient capabilities and abilities, we say, “Only God knows”.

In the face of some mind-boggling and heart-chilling happenings, it is hard to think of a more accurate expression than this to describe the superlative crimes which have been committed for whatever reason.

In fact, as a human being with all my limitations and shortcomings, I fail to even begin to understand let alone come to terms with the headlines which stare at me these days: the Mumbai attacks and the sentencing of a person to 18 years imprisonment which rewakens us to the crimes committed against a domestic worker years ago.

To say, “Only God knows” is of course to acknowledge that God is the Final Judge in everything and in all human affairs. Ultimately it is God’s judgment which counts for absolute truth. Some who were found by human institutions of justice to be guilty may in fact and truth be known to God to be innocent and some who have been found innocent by these same human institutions of justice in God’s eyes may be guilty.

The ultimate truth is with God.

So are the motives and reasons why human beings such as we are do what they do. This as well as the human reasoning that comes with human actions deemed necessary.

What failings of a domestic worker deserve a hot iron on her back and breasts and hot water on her legs? And what will it profit an employer to resort to such sadistic weapons as hot water and hot iron? What can drive a human being to perform such horrific acts upon another human being? What motive or reason could cause an educated professionally-employable human being to throw all cautions and control to the wind so as to do something which will exile her to eighteen years of incarceration and worse still plunge her entire family into helpless anguish?

In this particular case the accused is publicly proclaimed by her lawyers to be a staunch Christian. If so, and if the court’s judgement is on target, this will send a chill in the leadership of Christian churches throughout the country and raise the question of the real quality and effectiveness of our religious activities and where we might have failed in nurturing the flock.

But the Christian Church along with the whole adult population of the country will need to reflect long and hard about how we treat our employees at home and at work. Subordinates including those from abroad are human beings with God-endowed dignity and self-worth. There is no way that atrocities performed on any human being can ever be justified or sanctioned by any cultural or religious creed or community.

As for the Mumbai attacks, the regularity of such seeming sporadic war on ordinary civilians does not make us get used to the sheer monstrosity of such casual destruction of human lives. Again many questions can and must be raised concerning how any political or religious cause or objective could be furthered by the taking of human lives. Can any end be justified by such means?

In Malaysia, some famous or infamous cases await completion or their day (or years) in court. Some have gone to the extent of swearing their innocence outside of the court system. As always, motives and why some people do what they do against other human beings are at the core of these matters.

On all of the above, I end as I had begun: God has the final say in all this.

Jesus said, “Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed upon the housetops.” (Luke 12.3)

Hospitality for Refugee Children

Sara, twelve, and Umaida, seven, are two orphaned Rohingya refugee children living in Johor with their grandparents. Earlier this year, their grandmother, Zuleikha, passed away after suffering from chronic diabetes. The uncertainty of their situation is worsened not only by her passing but also by the illness of their grandfather, Hanif. At present, they live on the meagre assistance they receive from their neighbours who are refugees themselves. Otherwise, the family of three is very much on their own. They struggle very hard just to get by.

Sara and Umaida desire strongly to attend school. Although they were born in Malaysia, they have never been able to enter public schools. It is not their poverty that denies them access to education; it is their irregular immigration status. Through no fault of their own, they have no passports or Malaysian identification cards and because of that, Sara and Umaida are labeled as ‘illegals’ in Malaysia.

Illegal or undocumented?

No human beings are illegal. The truth in that statement becomes ever more apparent when we think of refugee children, like Sara and Umaida, who were born in a country that does not recognize them as refugees. Sara and Umaida did not choose to come to Malaysia. Like the other 11,200 refugee children registered with UNHCR in Malaysia as of July 2008, their parents fled from persecution in their home countries and have fled to our shores seeking protection.

Rohingyas, who originate from the Northern Rakhine (formerly Arakan) state in Myanmar, not only suffer under the militaristic rule of the junta in Myanmar but also are denied Myanmar citizenship. According to Amnesty International Rohingyas have suffered forced eviction, house destruction, forced labour, summary executions, torture and rape under the hands of the military junta since 1978 (see “Myanmar, The Rohingya Minority: Fundamental Rights Denied” by Amnesty International). Seeking an end to this violence directed against them and filled with the hope of a better life, many Rohingyas have fled to Bangladesh since 1978 and to Malaysia during the 1990s. Currently, there are 13,400 Rohingya refugees registered with the UNHCR in Malaysia although

Malaysia has not signed the 1951 Convention and Protocol Relating to the Status of Refugees and therefore labels all those who enter Malaysia by infracting immigration laws, even children, as “illegals”. Our rejection of this derogatory term is not purely a semantic matter. We reject this term as it denies refugees the status of being a person with inherent dignity and inalienable rights. We reject it because it stigmatizes refugees as criminals, while the law that their infract is administrative relating to immigration laws. We reject it because it denies refugees access to services such as education and health care that ensure their dignity. In place of the term ‘illegal’ we will use the term ‘undocumented’.

Created in the image and likeness of God

If we turn to Catholic Social Teaching we find a wealth of literature that seeks to protect the dignity of the human person, refugee or otherwise, against the onslaughts of increasing greed and xenophobia present in our society. These tendencies enforces certain stereotypes; such as that refugees are a source of a plethora of social ills ranging from increasing crime rates, unemployment, prostitution and communicable disease. Thus we find in Christifideles Laici: “The dignity of the person is manifested in all its radiance when the person’s origin and destiny are considered: created by God in His image and likeness as well as redeemed by the most precious blood of Christ, the person is called to be a ‘child in the Son’ and a living temple of the Spirit, destined for eternal life of blessed communion with God. For this very reason every violation of the personal dignity of the human being cries out in vengeance to God and is an offense against the Creator of the individual” (Christifideles Laici, n. 37)

In direct reference to refugees, the Church proclaims forcefully that She “is close to them not only with her pastoral presence and material support, but also with her commitment to defend their human dignity: ‘Concern for refugees must lead us to reaffirm and highlight universally recognized human rights, and to ask that the effective recognition of these rights be guaranteed to refugees’. (Compendium of the Social Doctrine of the Church, n. 505) Therefore, if we wish to protect the dignity of the human person, and of refugees in particular, the Church teaches that we need to advocate for the protection of universal human rights.

From tolerance to hospitality

Malaysia’s treatment of refugee children wavers from blatant disregard for them to a very diminutive tolerance of their presence. We hear often of Rohingya refugee children who have lived here in Johor for a good number of years without any incident, having never attented school or having any access to health care. However, Malaysia’s treatment of refugees has degenerated ever since the volunteer corps RELA (Ikatan Relawan Rakyat) was empowered to reduce the incidence of irregular migration. We hear of increasing raids targeted to flush out and arrest refugees. Sadly, we have even heard of reports of children arrested and sent to Immigration Detention Centres, a practice that goes against the United Nations Convention of the Rights of the Child (CRC) which has been ratified by Malaysia. We would like to propose that we move away from this careless tolerance to unconditional hospitality to the strangers in our midst.

Narratives of hospitality abound in Scripture. We hear of Abraham and Sarah who extended hospitality to strangers (Gen 18:1-8) and how this hospitality became a paradigm throughout the Old Testament for the treatment of strangers. We also hear of the the hospitality of Abigail placating David (1 Sam 25) and the widow of Zarephath caring for Elijah (1 Kgs 17:18-24).

The divine command to be hospitable to strangers becomes increasingly important in order to remember how the Israelites, our ancestors in faith, had once been strangers themselves in a foreign land and of how God had liberated them from their enslavement. “The alien who resides with you shall be to you as the citizen among you; you shall love the alien as yourself, for you were aliens in the land of Egypt: I am the Lord your God.” (Lev 19:33-34)

In the New Testament, we hear of how the Holy Family were refugees in the land of Egypt as they fled Israel to escape the wrath of Herod. We see numerous examples of Jesus’ hospitality to strangers and we also hear clearly of Jesus’ call to see Him in those who suffer starvation and thirst (Mt 25:31). Refugees suffer starvation and thirst often whether they live in jungle sites or in abandoned urban flats. We are reminded that we will be judged on how we respond to the least in society before God. “Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me” (Mt 25:40).

A space for the stranger in our midst

While our country has failed to be hospitable to many refugees who have come knocking on our door to seek protection, there have been many Civil Society Groups and Non-governmental Organizations that make a difference in the lives of refugees. Some organizations are involved in providing health care for refugees and these organizations save lives. Others provide informal education for refugee children, like Sara and Umaida. They give refugee children the opportunity to dream a different life, a life free from the shackles of poverty and uncertainty. Even as these groups suffer persecution, they teach us what hospitality to the stranger is all about.

They teach us that hospitality to refugees begins not with grandiose ideas but of responding to very urgent and necessary needs that ensures the dignity of child refugees. In the final analysis, they teach us that hospitality to refugee children begins with creating a space in our heart that is open enough to accept the stranger-child placed in our midst as we did accept the Child that was once born in a humble manger in Bethlehem.


The article above is written by Sch. Mark Aloysius, SJ for the December issue of Catholic Asian News and is republished with the permission of the author. Sch Mark Aloysius is a member of the Migrant and Refugee Desk of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Melaka-Johor.

God Moves In A Mysterious Way

It was the famous British poet and hymn writer, William Cowper (1731–1800), who composed “God Moves in a Mysterious Way.” The Selangor Police seemingly moves in a mysterious way too, judging from their conspicuous absence at the candlelight vigil at the Petaling Jaya Civic Centre last evening.

The boys in blue have a wry sense of humour indeed. They actually approved an application for the candlelight vigil on condition that that no candles be lit, no political speeches, protestors cannot wear T-shirts with the words “No to ISA” and a few other minor housekeeping rules. Don’t be silly, no one followed the rules. Otherwise it wouldn’t be a candlelight vigil.

This is a far cry from the previous week where they came in a convoy of seven trucks including a water cannon and whacked the daylights of those in their way, cracked a skull or two, and arrested two dozens protestors including lawmakers. The highhanded action was justified on account that it was an illegal assembly just like the previous ones to protest the use of the Internal Security Act following the arrests of a journalist, a blogger and a lawmaker under the draconian law.

This was already the sixth consecutive weekly gathering. It is understandable if the uninitiated has no clue what the protest is about. But who cares? It’s directed against an increasingly unpopular government. It’s a continuing angst since the 8 March popular uprising at the general elections to punish the ruling Barisan Nasional coalition for its arrogance and corruption, among other things.

The BN lost five state governments, the Federal Territory and its all-important two thirds majority in parliament. Did it learn any lessons? No, of course, that’s why these people are holding candlelight vigils here and elsewhere week after week although numbering only about 100 to 300.

The BN may be tempted to view this simply like an irritating mosquito buzzing around its ear. Make no mistakes about this. It has all the signs of becoming a popular movement. The sledgehammer approach by the authorities to silence them only serves to feed the need for it.

This much was evident last night. Parents continue to bring their young children despite being baton-charged at by the armed special forces last week. Perhaps soon the protests will die down as it always did. Perhaps not.

A mass movement is simply defined as a group of people with a common ideology who comes together to achieve certain general goals. In this case, the ideology is simply civil liberty and the common goal is to open up more space in the public square.

At one of the vigils, two street buskers were invited to get the crowd singing. But unlike the Philippines or Indonesia, we don’t have the culture of street protests. They tried very hard first in Malay and then in some lesser known protest songs in English. However, when they got to singing Bob Dylan’s “Blowin’ in the Wind”, it was the cue for the crowd to get into the thick of things.

Dylan’s song was released in 1963, the same year Baptish clergyman Martin Luther King Jr led the march on Washington, where he delivered his “I Have a Dream” speech. This song went on to become the anthem of the American civil rights movement. Its popularity and timelessness can perhaps be attributed to the fact that it does not refer specifically to any particular political event. Many of those who sang the song at the candlelight vigil that Sunday evening weren’t even born but it was this song, this speech, that led to the first Black man to the White House four decades later.

Then John Lennon’s “Imagine” was sung next and again it struck a chord.

“You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will be as one.”

Yes, many of those who sang it that night weren’t born yet but they heard it on “American Idol” and being a dreamer is obviously an interesting proposition.

Yes, God still moves in a mysterious way. A song, a speech, a candle, a dream. Bring your candle next Sunday.